Thursday, April 10, 2008

My mom is why I am fat!

Okay, so maybe not, but I know she had a big part in it. At least, as to why my self esteem sucks. I know she meant well, it just didn't work.
So, why do I bring this up? Well, this morning we were discussing my cousins wedding. She got engaged last night and the wedding is in August.
My mom says "well, you have until August to lose some weight."


I know, in my head, that this is a logical that I was thinking of myself but all I heard was "you would be so pretty if you just lost 10 lbs."
I hope that I can instill positive self esteem in my daughter and god help me if I ever make her feel the way my mom makes me feel.
Thank goodness my husband is awesome and always says things like "I don't know why you are trying to lose weight, you are beautiful, but I am proud of you for being healthy." (I heart him).
Well, that is my whine for the day.

i am sucking big time. Just not so motivated and don't know why. Still making good choices, but too many of them.


Amanda said...

Do we have the same mom?

Seriously...even 9 months pregnant my mom has made comments. My reply to her? I'm pregnant...what's your excuse?

My sister was visiting last week and she has gained a few pounds and was asking me about losing weight. I told her our mom was the WORST mother when it came to building her daughters self esteeem. She seems to think that telling us repeatedly that we're fat or we need to lose weight or whatever will make us see the light and start losing weight. But for my poor sis, who still lives at home, it's hard b/c my mom doesn't understand what is healthy and what's not. She needs to shed some pounds herself but she doesn't know how to diet properly.

Okay, so I got off on a tangent there. Sorry this got so long, but I wanted you to know you are NOT alone!

Veggie Gal said...

..I'm sorry, that hurts. Unfortunately I can relate. My parents are weight obsessed and after losing weight due to illness they just loved how thin I got... It really messes with your head. Stay strong.